Life: A Series of Choices

Picture this: It’s 3:52 p.m. on Monday, November 2, 2015 and you are sitting in the office of the dean of students. You have a 4 p.m. meeting with her and the director of student conduct. In the past 36 hours, you have heard from almost everyone you know and apologized more times than you can count. When will this nightmare stop? You take a deep breath and begin to recount the ripple effects of the choice you made on Saturday morning: 

Last hour | Monday, November 2, 2015
A note was tucked under your wind shield wiper. The note only contained one word: Bigot.

9:17 a.m. | Monday, November 2, 2015
You received a call from your favorite professor. Professor Barker is concerned about you representing the college ambassador organization next month in light of the recent events. It’s best for you to sit out this opportunity. 

7:04 a.m. | Monday, November 2, 2015
It was the lead story on more than one national morning show. There was your face, in that costume, with the university’s name and Delta Gamma’s name scrolling across the bottom. It was horrible. 

8 p.m. | Sunday, November 1, 2015
Television station crews were parked outside the location of the chapter meeting. You had planned to honor your big sister with her homecoming court announcement.  

12:18 p.m. | Sunday, November 1, 2015
You received an email from your adviser letting you know the Regional Collegiate Specialist will be reaching out to discuss the situation.

11 a.m. | Sunday, November 1, 2015
You called your parents. You explained your social media accounts are private. You don’t know how this picture got out. Your parents cried with you and asked you to explain what you were thinking. 

8:37 a.m. | Sunday, November 1, 2015
You woke up to text messages from friends whose parents saw a photo from Saturday night on the local news. You didn’t take that many photos. You have no idea how a photo made it on to the news.

9 p.m. | Saturday, October 31, 2015
You loaded the bus with your date. A sister asked you if you thought your costume was inappropriate. You ignored her. 

10:04 a.m. | Saturday, October 31, 2015
You woke up and thought of the costume idea for the party. You hopped online and found some pictures for inspiration. 

3:45 p.m. | Friday, October 30, 2015
You received a text from your roommate about costume ideas. You replied, “Want to come up with something funny?”

Imagine this: It never happened. Breathe a sigh of relief. You realized that your “funny attempt” could hurt, would be off-putting and was far from humorous. You are not embarrassed. You’re not crying, nor are you hesitant to answer a call or go to your car. You didn’t offend anyone or upset the cultures represented within your community and our sisterhood. You remain the champion you promised to be, and a kind, caring student within your campus.  


Live this: “There is a choice you have to make, in everything you do. And, you must always keep in mind, the choice you make, makes you.” Thank you, Anonymous – you always say the right thing. 
Pause. Consider the possible ripple effects of your choices. Ask yourself, “Is this supportive of others? Would I want a picture of this to serve as my profile photo? Am I showing that I care about my neighbor, or that I hate them? Is this choice the best me?” 
Save yourself and those around you by considering the possibilities. Even the possibilities you think could never happen. At all times, but especially as we enter a seasonal time of dressing up in costume, consider how your Saturday morning version of funny will offend, will hurt and will not show your caring heart.  
There is one thing that separates the above story from becoming a reality: you. Keep it that way, dear sisters. Your choices define the best you. Make choices that are full of hope, not hate.

Kate Stanton, Alpha Iota – University of Oklahoma
Director: Collegiate Programming 

Kate Stanton’s days (and most evenings) are filled serving the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center as Executive Director for Student Affairs and Associate Title IX Coordinator as well as teaching a leadership seminar on the University’s Norman Campus.

Currently serving the Fraternity as Director of Collegiate Programming working with member education and programming initiatives, Kate treasures creating solutions, thinking outside the box and bringing student voice into the conversation. Celebrating life, filling others’ buckets, traveling, and finding the best iced tea takes up the other seconds in Kate’s day. An initiate of Alpha Iota – Oklahoma, Kate will blow out 20 candles this month marking her 20^th anniversary as a Delta Gamma.

Five Common Barriers to Speaking Up

Five common barriers to speaking up are:

• Social Influence- You don’t see anyone doing anything about it, so you don’t intervene. The thought that if no one else is doing anything about it, it must not be a big deal.
• Fear of Embarrassment- This is based on the reactions you believe you will get from intervening. A fear of embarrassing yourself or others because it’s not the cool or popular thing to do.
•  Diffusion of Responsibility- You assume, or hope, someone else will do something.
•  Fear of Retaliation- This includes the fear of lack of support from peers, superiors or others.
• Pluralistic Ignorance- You perceive that you are the only one that views this as a problem when in reality, most people privately feel the same way you do.

What To Do When You Suspect Someone May Be at Risk for Suicide

As sisters, it’s our responsibility to support each other and encourage those in our lives who are facing such issues to seek the help they need. September’s Bronze, Pink, and YOU topic will focus on suicide prevention. Using the hashtag #LiveGOOD, this month we will share information regarding signs and symptoms of depression, addressing suicidal thoughts, and what to do when you’re concerned about someone in your life. Below you will find invaluable information regarding what to do when you suspect someone may be at risk for suicide from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. 

1. Take it Seriously
• 50% to 75% of all people who attempt suicide tell someone about their intention.
• If someone you know shows the warning signs above, the time to act is now.
2. Ask Questions
• Begin by telling the suicidal person you are concerned about them.
• Tell them specifically what they have said or done that makes you feel concerned about suicide.
• Don't be afraid to ask whether the person is considering suicide, and whether they have a particular plan or method in mind. These questions will not push them toward suicide if they were not considering it.
• Ask if they are seeing a clinician or are taking medication so the treating person can be contacted.
• Do not try to argue someone out of suicide. Instead, let them know that you care, that they are not alone and that they can get help. Avoid pleading and preaching to them with statements such as, “You have so much to live for,” or “Your suicide will hurt your family.”
3. Encourage Professional Help
• Actively encourage the person to see a physician or mental health professional immediately.
• People considering suicide often believe they cannot be helped. If you can, assist them to identify a professional and schedule an appointment. If they will let you, go to the appointment with them.
4. Take Action
• If the person is threatening, talking about, or making specific plans for suicide, this is a crisis requiring immediate attention. Do not leave the person alone.
• Remove any firearms, drugs, or sharp objects that could be used for suicide from the area.
• Take the person to a walk-in clinic at a psychiatric hospital or a hospital emergency room.
• If these options are not available, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for assistance.
5. Follow-Up on Treatment
• Still skeptical that they can be helped, the suicidal person may need your support to continue with treatment after the first session.
• If medication is prescribed, support the person to take it exactly as prescribed. Be aware of possible side effects, and notify the person who prescribed the medicine if the suicidal person seems to be getting worse, or resists taking the medicine. The doctor can often adjust the medications or dosage to work better for them.
• Help the person understand that it may take time and persistence to find the right medication and the right therapist. Offer your encouragement and support throughout the process, until the suicidal crisis has passed.

This information was taken from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Delta Gamma President Shows #IAmASororityWoman Support

I am a leader. I am a business woman. I am a volunteer. I am a philanthropist. I am a

mother, daughter, sister, cousin, niece. I am a wife. I am an advisor, a mentor, a role-model. I am a friend and confidant. I am a traveler, sailor, skier, reader, writer. I'm a big picture thinker, a visionary. I look for solutions and possibilities. I believe in the power of women. I am all of this and so much more, and I am not alone. I am a Delta Gamma. #IAmASororityWoman

Stacia Rudge Skoog, Beta Zeta-Denison

International President

Delta Gamma

Kappa Delta, Sigma Delta Tau, Lambda Theta Alpha, Zeta Tau Alpha Show #IAmASororityWoman Support

"Sorority membership has taught me that when women stand together and support one another, there is nothing we cannot accomplish. I am honored to lead an organization that is committed to building confidence in women and girls everywhere. I am a sorority woman because linking arms with sisters who share a vision and a creed makes me a better leader and a better woman as together we seek that which is honorable, beautiful and highest. #IAmASororityWoman”
Alison Jakes Argersinger
National President
Kappa Delta Sorority

I am so fortunate to have the opportunity to serve as National President of Sigma Delta Tau. I am the leader I am today because of the skills I learned through sorority life in college, the volunteer opportunities I was given on our National Council, and the countless women I have utilized as role models and mentors. I am truly honored to empower collegiate women today through scholarship, service, leadership and sisterhood.  #IAmASororityWoman #SDTEmpowers

Michelle Carlson 

National President

Sigma Delta Tau

#IAmASororityWoman because since becoming a Sister of Lambda Theta Alpha in 2004, I  have experienced how being part of a sorority empowers women to be resilient leaders, provide a platform to serve the greater community, and opens an extended family to rely on as we grow personally and professionally.  I recognize the benefits of being part of a sorority and I make sure that I seek out those benefits to its full advantage as I balance career and family while also facing challenges that affect me as a woman and Latina. Ultimately, my time as a sorority member is priceless because no matter how many volunteer hours or responsibilities I commit to my sorority - it still doesn’t compare to the opportunities, life lessons, and lifelong friends that I have received from it.  

Beatriz A. Barragan 

National President 

Lambda Theta Alpha Latin Sorority, Inc.  

#LTA1975

As a collegiate member of Zeta Tau Alpha, I learned our motto is “Seek the Noblest.” Noble wasn’t a word I used often as an 18-year-old, but my chapter’s dedication to our founding values helped me understand the importance of upholding our Fraternity’s honorable principles and values. They have become my guide for my roles as mother, volunteer and leader. I am proud to serve an organization of women who still strive every day to “Seek the Noblest.” #IAmASororityWoman

Carolyn Hof Carpenter

National President

Zeta Tau Alpha

Learn more about The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose

The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose - The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose is the highest award presented by the Fraternity, honoring alumnae who have made distinguished contributions to their nation and/or the world. Recipients are renowned in their chosen fields, and MUST have received (inter)national recognition because of their individual efforts and talents. Ann Glossup Bordelon, Alpha Omega-Arkansas, received the Order of the Delta Gamma Rose Award in 2015 as recognition for her unparalleled excellence in both the national and international business world, having reached the apex of an impressive career while being an immeasurable credit to our beloved Fraternity. Ann worked as senior vice president and chief financial officer for both Sam’s Club and Walmart Asia. She was a board member for Walmart Mexico and is the immediate past senior vice president of finance and strategy-U.S. Operations. Her success is underscored by her membership in the International Women’s Forum, as a member of the Harvard Kennedy School of Government’s Women’s Leadership Board, the Sam W. Walton College of Business Dean’s Executive Advisory Board and her work with the International Accounting Standards Board. Also, Ann always finds time for Delta Gamma, having served on our Foundation Board of Trustees with great devotion and applied acumen. Ann is truly a deserving recipient of the Order of the Delta Gamma Rose Award.

Do Ann’s successes and contributions sound like the actions of another alumna you know? Nominate her for the Rose Award! You can find Rose Award instructions here.

Learn more about the Shield Award

The Shield Award - The Shield Award recognizes alumnae who have achieved unique and noteworthy distinctions through leadership and verifiable accomplishments in their chosen fields of professional expertise. Dr. Karla Treckel Mugler, Gamma Epsilon-Kent State, received the Shield Award in 2015 in recognition of her leadership as a powerful force in higher education and an inspiration to thousands of students across the country. Karla views education as the key to helping prepare students for careers and further education, as well as a means to support their families and contribute to the world. She served as dean of University College for the

University of Akron and influenced women throughout Ohio as a leader in the Ohio Women’s Network. Karla’s brand of “Do Good” has led her to become a respected leader on transfer and veteran’s initiatives for the Ohio Board of Regents, as well as the Association of Deans and Directors of University Colleges. Karla’s distinguished career highlights her genuine ability to guide and mentor students in a university environment. We are so proud to call her “sister.”  

Do Karla’s successes and contributions sound like the actions of another alumna you know? Nominate her for the Shield Award! You can find Shield Award instructions here.

Learn more about the Loyalty Award

The Loyalty Award - The Loyalty Award recognizes alumnae who have continued to serve the Fraternity for at least 10 years following recognition with the Fraternity’s Cable Award. This alumna is a woman who exhibits extraordinary commitment and distinctive dedication to Delta Gamma. Paula Jean Ellwein, Alpha Lambda-Drake, received the Loyalty Award in 2015 recognizing her incredible, continued commitment to Delta Gamma following her receipt of Fraternity’s Cable Award in 1996. She subsequently served as a Council Appointed Coordinator for both Epsilon Mu-William and Mary and Eta Mu-Lake Forest. She also served as secretary for the Delta Gamma Society of Minnesota, president and director-at-large for the 125^th Anniversary Committee for Lambda-Minnesota and as a member of the Awards Committee. Paula continues to “Do Good” whenever an opportunity presents itself – epitomizing what “loyalty” to Delta Gamma truly is.

Do Paula’s successes and contributions sound like the actions of another alumna you know? Nominate her for the Loyalty Award! You can find Loyalty Award instructions here.

Learn more about the Cable Award

The Cable Award - The Cable Award recognizes alumnae who, through years of serving Delta Gamma, have evidenced unusual loyalty and devotion far beyond normal alumnae participation. Elizabeth Blackburn Reece, Epsilon Gamma-Virginia, received the Cable Award in 2015 in recognition of her incredible leadership in the Northern Virginia alumnae chapter for more than 10 years. Elizabeth is best known for her cheerful, “Do Good” attitude and her commitment to furthering the chapter’s goals. Her alumnae activities included serving in many executive board roles, ranging from chapter president to vice president: membership, 2004 Convention publicity chairman and as the long-running chair of the chapter’s iconic, annual Holiday Cards for Foundations fundraiser. Elizabeth is also a recipient of the Katie Hale Award, which recognizes loyalty, friendship and devotion to the Northern Virginia alumnae chapter.

Do Elizabeth’s successes and contributions sound like the actions of another alumna you know? Nominate her for the Cable Award! You can find Cable Award instructions here.

Learn more about the Oxford Award

The Oxford Award - The Oxford Award recognizes alumnae who exemplify the Delta Gamma philosophy of community service through volunteer and philanthropic activities. Recipients bring a sense of pride to their alumnae groups through outstanding community efforts and involvement. Lucinda Rice-Petrie, Mu-Missouri, received the Oxford Award in 2015 in recognition of her lifetime commitment to “Doing Good” as a tireless volunteer and philanthropic powerhouse. Her leadership in the Greater Kansas City alumnae chapter’s fundraising projects, from the House Tour to the Poinsettia Sale and the Plant Sale, is legendary. Her outstanding commitment to the community garnered her recognition as the 2004 Historic Kansas City Volunteer Service Award recipient. She was also made the 2007 Honorary Member of the Kansas City Young Matrons for exceptional service, and has received numerous other accolades for her volunteer spirit. Lucinda has contributed mightily to her chapter of Initiation, serving on the House Corporation Board with distinction meriting her receipt of the Eurethe Grant Doane Alumnae Award from the Mu House Corporation in 2011. Lucinda makes all who know her proud to say, “Why, yes, she is a Delta Gamma – and she is my sister!”

Do Lucinda’s successes and contributions sound like the actions of another alumna you know? Nominate her for the Oxford Award! You can find Oxford Award instructions here.

Phi Mu, Alpha Gamma Delta, Theta Phi Alpha, Phi Sigma Sigma Show #IAmASororityWoman Support

I became a Chapter Consultant for Phi Mu after my chapter at Hanover College hosted a consultant who worked with us during our recruitment.  I thought Patty was the most amazing woman I ever met!  Little did I know that the decision to travel and  help our chapters develop across the country would result in my passion for working with our collegiate and alumnae members.   While I cite member development, leadership opportunities and philanthropic giving as my motivation for giving volunteer time to my organization, ultimately it's the sisterhood that keeps me engaged.   I have "sisters" within my organization and with Panhellenic women across the miles and years who hold the most special place in my heart. #IAmASororityWoman

Beth Monnin

National President

Phi Mu

As a double legacy, I went to college knowing I would join a sorority. What I didn’t know was how impactful that experience would be and how my membership would shape the woman I am today. Each moment of my sisterhood has enlightened my spirit, broadened my understanding, driven me to reach for greater success, created a foundation of giving back to my community and encouraged me to embrace experiences with graceful enthusiasm! #IAmASororityWoman   

Rie Gerah Hoehner 

International President 

Alpha Gamma Delta

Ever since joining the Theta Phi Alpha sisterhood, I’ve been guided by the values listed in our creed to remind me of the best path forward through career decisions, friendships, motherhood and now as National President. I’ll always treasure the lifelong bonds I have with my sisters and for these reasons I proudly share that #IAmASororityWoman.

Laura Foley 

National President

Theta Phi Alpha

I have volunteered for Phi Sigma Sigma for more than 20 years because I passionately believe in the benefits of the sorority experience.  As the international president, my goal is to promote a supportive culture where our collegiate and alumnae members can aim high and achieve their goals.  The organization’s values and ritual have helped shape who I am, and I am grateful for the opportunity to give back.  #IAmASororityWoman

Alicia Scott

President

Phi Sigma Sigma

Delta Zeta, Pi Beta Phi, Gamma Phi Beta Show #IAmASororityWoman Support

"My commitment to my sorority fulfills a global purpose to touch lives that are truly forever changed. I have the power to make a difference to those who my life may touch in slight measure, as I give graciously of what is mine. I am the better for having served. #IAmASororityWoman"

Diane M. Stecher 

National President 

Delta Zeta Sorority

"My collegiate and alumnae experience in Pi Beta Phi have helped to shape me into the woman I am today.  I can never repay all Pi Phi has given me so I serve my beloved Fraternity in an effort to pay it forward. #IAmASororityWoman" 

Paula Shepherd 

Grand President

Pi Beta Phi Fraternity

“Gamma Phi Beta’s mission, to inspire the highest type of womanhood, evokes a smile every time I read, write or say it. Why? Because it’s relevant in my everyday life! For me, being a sorority woman is more than the letters we wear; it’s about being a confident woman of character, who lives our values each day.#IAmASororityWoman"

Krista Davis  

International President

Gamma Phi Beta 

Kappa Kappa Gamma, Alpha Sigma Alpha, Sigma Kappa Show #IAmASororityWoman Support

When I pledged my organization, I was a reluctant member at best. It wasn't until my sisters taught me to believe in myself that I truly understood the power of sorority. Today I cherish the opportunity to help provide our members with the tools they need to be successful so they can become the women they aspire to be. #IAmASororityWoman

Beth Black 
Fraternity President
Kappa Kappa Gamma 




I am thankful to be a sorority woman and a member of Alpha Sigma Alpha because of the opportunity to live my values through service and leadership.  I am able to strive to be my very best because of the lifelong friendships and mentors who assist me along my journey as a woman of poise and purpose.  I serve as national president because I know the impact of sorority membership, and I want to ensure its future!   #iamasororitywoman

Melissa Koch Merriam
NATIONAL PRESIDENT
Alpha Sigma Alpha





As the National President for Sigma Kappa I have the extreme pleasure of leading an organization that does so much for young collegiate women and that sisterhood continues on throughout their life. I have three daughters and, of course, we would want them to be members of our own organization as a legacy, but sometimes the universities they chose to attend have different NPC groups – so two of my daughters are members of Delta Zeta and one is a member of Kappa Delta.   They are having a wonderful Panhellenic experience – they are experiencing being on executive council, recruitment, leadership conferences, etc.   I am so happy to say I have such a Panhellenic family!   #IAmASororityWoman.

Cheri De Jong
National President

Sigma Kappa

Recognizing Amazing Alumnae with Awards

It’s the most wonderful time of the year – yes, sisters, it is awards season! Time to nominate our outstanding alumnae who “Do Good” for the Fraternity, with the Foundation, in their communities or as professionals.  

Mother Teresa observed that “the miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.” Delta Gammas are known for our outstanding alumnae whose contributions to the Fraternity, the Delta Gamma Foundation, their communities and their professions foster our Culture of Care. We are fortunate to have remarkable alumna among us who are ideal candidates for Individual Alumnae Awards (IAAs).

We all treasure that alumna who epitomizes the Culture of Care that is the hallmark of Delta Gamma. She is the woman who exemplifies the Founders’ commitment to their little club of mutual helpfulness through her tireless philanthropic service, her ready response as a collegiate adviser, her strong leadership as a professional role model and her quiet commitment to improving the world around her.

In this happy season, please consider nominating that remarkable Delta Gamma alumna in your life for one of the Fraternity’s IAAs. In addition to the descriptions below, you can find more specific criteria for each IAA on the News & Resources page on the Delta Gamma website. All IAA applications are located in e-Ops+, and complete nomination packets for all awards are due September 15.  

The Cable Award – The Cable Award recognizes alumnae who, through years of serving Delta Gamma, have evidenced unusual loyalty and devotion far beyond normal alumnae participation. You can find Cable Award instructions here.

The Loyalty Award – The Loyalty Award recognizes alumnae who have continued to serve the Fraternity for at least 10 years following recognition with the Fraternity’s Cable Award. She is a woman who exhibits extraordinary commitment and distinctive dedication to Delta Gamma. You can find Loyalty Award instructions here.

The Anchor Award – The Anchor Award recognizes alumnae who have received the Cable Award and whose Fraternity service and achievements extend beyond the local level with a demonstrable, unique and lasting impact on every member of the Fraternity.  Anchor Award winners are a mainstay, providing Delta Gamma a lifetime of reliable support from which all members benefit. You can find Anchor Award instructions here.

The Oxford Award – The Oxford Award recognizes alumnae who exemplify the Delta Gamma philosophy of community service through volunteer and philanthropic activities. Recipients bring a sense of pride to their alumnae groups through outstanding community efforts and involvement. You can find Oxford Award instructions here.

The Shield Award - The Shield Award recognizes alumnae who have achieved unique and noteworthy distinctions through leadership and verifiable accomplishments in their chosen fields of professional expertise. You can find Shield Award instructions here.

The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose - The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose is the highest award presented by the Fraternity, honoring alumnae who have made distinguished contributions to their nation and/or the world. Recipients are renowned in their chosen fields, and MUST have received (inter)national recognition because of their individual efforts and talents. You can find Rose Award instructions here.

Helpful Dos and Don’ts:
• Do review the criteria for each award well in advance of preparing the application. This will give you an opportunity to gather all of the information that you will need to complete the application.
• Do consider ALL she has accomplished. She has probably accomplished even more than the efforts that inspired you to nominate her in the first place. Take a minute to think about it, discuss it with others who know and work with her, write down a few thoughts, then GO FOR IT!  
• Do ask! Do you have questions about some of the awards or any part of the process? Just ask your Regional Alumnae Specialist (RAS), Regional Collegiate Specialist (RCS) or contact the Fraternity Director: Awards at awards@deltagamma.org 
• Do brag! Now is the time to tell us all of the wonderful things that make you so proud to call her “sister.” Has she won other awards or recognition? Did she single-handedly pull it off? Has she been there day in and day out, with huge impact and an even bigger smile? Tell us! Has she inspired or helped the collegians? Tell us! Is she a resolute, dependable and yet cheerful crew leader? Tell us! 
• Don’t wait until the last minute! As we all know, computers and websites are fickle things. Just when you need them to work, they don’t. Make sure you plan ahead! 
Consider nominating an alumna you know for “Doing Good” in an overwhelming way.  

~ Rachel McDougal Bishop, Gamma Epsilon-Kent State
Director: Awards

National Nutrition Month Eating How-To’s

Originally posted on nustarthealth.com

Did you know that March is National Nutrition Month? Yes, I talk about eating nutritiously all the time but now it is time to get specific! This month is all about creating awareness of food choices and making a routine of eating nutrient-dense foods all day long. Follow these tips to add more nutrients into your meals.

Use the colors of your plate to become aware of how healthy your meal truly is! The more colors you include in your dish the higher the nutrients included. Strive to include at least 3 colors of the rainbow in each meal.

Look at all the color in this Jar

 

Make vegetables your largest proportion in every meal. Okay, maybe not every. If you don’t have a vegetable in it then be sure you are eating a fruit. Vegetables should be the #1 food group you eat daily. If I were to ask you if it were and you hesitated….increase your amount!

Don’t forget the beans and nuts/seeds daily. Beans and nuts/seeds are protein and fiber packed with a bunch of necessary calories. Just watch your proportion to make your calories meet your health goal.

Here is a great food pyramid to achieve meals high in nutrients and achieve fullness all day long while stepping toward or maintaining health!

How will you add in more nutrients to your breakfast, lunch, and dinner this week?

Kristen Gebhart, Gamma Rho-Wittenberg, has always had a passion for health.  As the lead NuStart coach and trainer, Kristen facilitates discussions and training on lifestyle strategies in the areas of nutrition, sleep, exercise and stress management. 

Look For the Helpers

The past few weeks have been so difficult for those who are sensitive to the human condition. I don’t know about you, but my heart and my head are trying to reconcile how we treat each other…how we see each other…how we find goodness in the midst of sadness.

We are hurting. The passing of Robin Williams. The events in Ferguson, the impact of ISIS, the events in Africa, Syria and Iraq.  This is a time of complex sadness. None of these things are easy to watch or are easily explained.

When I was a little girl, my parents both worked outside the home. Both my mother and father worked in education, and because of that, I started reading anything I could get my hands on at a very young age. As a latchkey kid, I discovered television early on as well. While my parents provided hundreds of books to me, I was attracted to television too! I loved (and still do) all kinds of television. Name an 80’s sitcom or movie, and I’ve probably seen it.  Mork and Mindy, Mr. Rogers Neighborhood, Square Pegs, the Original Degrassi Junior High, Reading Rainbow, Today’s Special, 321 Contact, The Electric Company, and Designing Women were my “must see TV” programs. These shows made an alien, some really awkward and lovable teenagers in New York and Canada, a talking mannequin, Julia and Susanne Sugarbaker, Levar Burton, The Bloodhound Gang, and Mr. Rogers my friends.

Lately, I really miss Mr. Rogers. I often wonder what he would say in the midst of all of this chaos and sadness. Fred Rogers was a sensitive communicator to children, and his program was so simple and consistent, it resonated with the deepest part of a child’s need for calm, safe, kind adults to lead and guide them. There have been studies that indicate his voice can slow a heartbeat, calm a crying baby, and increase learning retention. Just his voice. What a lovely legacy.

Mr. Rogers spoke simply and softly. He used very few words and was committed to slow and steady teaching. He knew that the world was hard, but that core values and consistent commitment to good would be a powerful support system for children.

He was right, of course. 

When Mr. Rogers was asked how parents might navigate or discuss the scary events that populate the evening news, topics that scare and upset us all, like injustice, famine, war, crimes against humanity, or the death of a friend, his response was so moving. 

“My mother used to tell me, whenever there would be any catastrophe, always look for the helpers. There will always be helpers, even on the sidelines…….because if you look for the helpers, you’ll know there is hope.”

When I think about Delta Gamma, the core of who we are, I see hundreds of thousands of helpers. We’re the helpers! I’m so incredibly proud that since 1873, we have rallied to “Do Good” for those who need our help. Our motto is the simplest explanation of our mission. It is the soft call for action. It is the focus on solutions and service that moves me so, and reminds me that no matter the age of our members, our core identity is good. We “Do Good.” Where we are needed, Delta Gamma is there.

On September 14 – 20, “Do Good” Week will begin for every member of Delta Gamma. I invite you to look at the participation guide and prepare to do simple acts of kindness where you live. It doesn’t take much good to change the atmosphere. And wow, do we need it. We need you to reconnect with the core purpose of Delta Gamma, and find little ways to “Do Good” wherever you are. 

There is one small truth that sustains me when the world gets loud and sad. For 140  years, our women have helped create good for the world. 

We have helped others to see.

We have created pathways to dignity for people in need.

We have lent a helping hand.

We’ve supported communities working to heal and rebuild.

We have provided support for women who are seeking education.

We have stepped up to have hard conversations and create solutions.

Our lectureships on have created safe spaces for learning about triumph of the human spirit, values-based and ethical leadership, commonality as opposed to difference. 

We have a key focus on courage and strength.

We are do-ers. Not just dreamers, Delta Gamma women spring hope into action with our commitment to “Do Good.”

I believe Mr. Rogers would be so proud of our simple commitments and powerful impact. Please join us next week as we work to create hope and “Do Good.” As the world “looks for the helpers”, I hope they meet you. 

"Do Good,"

Cori Wallace

VP: Alumnae

vpalumnae@deltagamma.org

We would love to hear about your experiences during “Do Good” Week! Please email your stories to Elizabeth at Executive Offices. She can be reached at Elizabeth@deltagamma.org.

What To Do When You Suspect Someone May Be at Risk for Suicide

As sisters, it’s our responsibility to support each other and encourage those in our lives who are facing such issues to seek the help they need. September’s Bronze, Pink and YOU topic will focus on suicide prevention. Using the hashtag #LiveGOOD, this month we will share information regarding signs and symptoms of depression, addressing suicidal thoughts, and what to do when you’re concerned about someone in your life. Below you will find invaluable information regarding what to do when you suspect someone may be at risk for suicide from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. 

1. Take it Seriously
• 50% to 75% of all people who attempt suicide tell someone about their intention.
• If someone you know shows the warning signs above, the time to act is now.
2. Ask Questions
• Begin by telling the suicidal person you are concerned about them.
• Tell them specifically what they have said or done that makes you feel concerned about suicide.
• Don't be afraid to ask whether the person is considering suicide, and whether they have a particular plan or method in mind. These questions will not push them toward suicide if they were not considering it.
• Ask if they are seeing a clinician or are taking medication so the treating person can be contacted.
• Do not try to argue someone out of suicide. Instead, let them know that you care, that they are not alone and that they can get help. Avoid pleading and preaching to them with statements such as, “You have so much to live for,” or “Your suicide will hurt your family.”
3. Encourage Professional Help
• Actively encourage the person to see a physician or mental health professional immediately.
• People considering suicide often believe they cannot be helped. If you can, assist them to identify a professional and schedule an appointment. If they will let you, go to the appointment with them.
4. Take Action
• If the person is threatening, talking about, or making specific plans for suicide, this is a crisis requiring immediate attention. Do not leave the person alone.
• Remove any firearms, drugs, or sharp objects that could be used for suicide from the area.
• Take the person to a walk-in clinic at a psychiatric hospital or a hospital emergency room.
• If these options are not available, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for assistance.
5. Follow-Up on Treatment
• Still skeptical that they can be helped, the suicidal person may need your support to continue with treatment after the first session.
• If medication is prescribed, support the person to take it exactly as prescribed. Be aware of possible side effects, and notify the person who prescribed the medicine if the suicidal person seems to be getting worse, or resists taking the medicine. The doctor can often adjust the medications or dosage to work better for them.
• Help the person understand that it may take time and persistence to find the right medication and the right therapist. Offer your encouragement and support throughout the process, until the suicidal crisis has passed.

This information was taken from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

It's DG Award Application Season

As the summer days begin to dwindle and the autumn wonders begin their parade, Delta Gammas know – it’s Awards season!   Now is the time to consider nominating outstanding alumnae who Do Good for the Fraternity, with the Foundation, in their communities, or as professionals.  They are the women who take to heart the advice of Archbishop Desmond Tutu, “Do your little bit of good where you are; it's those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.”   Below is a list of individual alumnae awards.  More specific criteria for each award can be found at the Delta Gamma website at deltagamma.org in the library and all award applications can be found in eOps+.  Nominations and complete packages are due on September 15th.  

The Cable Award - The Cable Award recognizes alumnae who, through years of serving Delta Gamma, have evidenced unusual loyalty and devotion far beyond normal alumnae participation.  Criteria and instruction sheets for annual individual alumnae awards may be found here.  Applications are due September 15. 

The Oxford Award - The Oxford Award recognizes alumnae who exemplify the Delta Gamma philosophy of service to community through volunteer and philanthropic activities.  Recipients bring a sense of pride to their alumnae groups through outstanding community efforts and involvement.  Criteria and instruction sheets for annual individual alumnae awards may be found here.  Applications are due September 15.  

The Anchor Award - The Anchor Award recognizes alumnae who have received the Cable Award winner and whose Fraternity service and achievements extend  beyond the local level with a demonstrable, unique, and lasting impact on every member of the Fraternity.  Anchor Award winners are a mainstay, providing Delta Gamma a lifetime of reliable support from which all members benefit.  Criteria and instruction sheets for annual individual alumnae awards may be found here.  Applications are due September 15. 

The Shield Award - The Shield Award recognizes alumnae who have achieved unique and noteworthy distinctions through leadership and verifiable accomplishments in their chosen fields of professional expertise. Criteria and instruction sheets for annual individual alumnae awards may be found here.  Applications are due September 15. 

The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose - The Order of the Delta Gamma Rose is the highest award presented by the Fraternity, honoring alumnae who have made distinguished contributions to the nation and/or the world. Recipients are renowned in their chosen fields, and MUST have received (inter)national recognition because of their individual efforts and talents. Criteria and instruction sheets for annual individual alumnae awards may be found here.  Applications are due September 15. 

HELPFUL DOs & DON’Ts:
• Do review the criteria for each award well in advance of preparing the application. This will give you an opportunity to gather all of the information that you will need to complete the application.
• Do consider ALL she has accomplished.  She has probably accomplished even more than the “little bits of good” that inspired you to nominate her in the first place.  Take a minute to think about it, discuss it with others who know and work with her, write down a few thoughts, then GO FOR IT!  
• Do ask! Do you have questions about some of the awards or any part of the process?  Just ask your Regional Alumnae Specialist (RAS), Regional Collegiate Specialist (RCS), or contact the Fraternity Director: Awards at awards@deltagamma.org 
• Don’t wait until the last minute! As we all know, computers and websites are fickle things. Just when you need them to work, they don’t.  Plan ahead! 
• Do brag!  Now is the time to tell us all of the wonderful things that make you so proud to call her “sister”.  Has she won other awards or recognition?  Did she single-handedly pull it off?  Hasshe been there day in and day out, with huge impact and an even bigger smile? Tell us!  Has she inspired or helped the collegians? Tell us!  Is she the stalwart, depenedable and yet cheerful crew leader?  Tell us! 

Consider nominating an alumna you know for doing good in an overwhelming way.  

Delta Gamma launches first-ever “Do Good” Week

What is “Do Good” Week?
You may have heard the news. Delta Gamma Fraternity is sponsoring a new initiative, Delta Gamma “Do Good” Week. This week is all about doing good deeds. As Delta Gammas, we pledged to “Do Good” when we accepted our bids into the Fraternity. In fact, our Fraternity letters were even chosen because they represent the desire to “Do Good.” 

Now, the Fraternity plans to highlight the good that our members do during our first ever Delta Gamma “Do Good” Week. 

No matter where you live or how busy your schedule, you can participate. From September 14 to September 20, we are asking that each Delta Gamma do at least one act of kindness for another person or the environment, and then share it with us. This is an opportunity to connect with the Fraternity’s founding values, brighten someone’s day and better your community. 

How can I participate?
You can help carry groceries to someone’s car, call a relative to catch up, stay late at work to help a coworker with a project, put change in an expired meter or even pick up trash in your neighborhood. We also encourage you to check out what your alumnae group or collegiate chapter is doing to participate. Many are planning group service events.

Check out the “Do Good” Week Participation Guide in the Delta Gamma website library to learn more on how you can participate and promote “Do Good” Week. The guide provides examples of good deeds, a Facebook cover photo, a link to our “Do Good” Pinterest board, tips for promoting “Do Good” Week on social media and how to share your “Do Good” story with us and online. There are other resources available for your download, such as printable save the date cards for you to distribute to family and friends who may be interested in participating.  

How can I share what I’ve done?
Be sure to use the hash tag #DGDoGoodWeek when posting about your “Do Good” Week plans, experiences and stories. We would love to see your photos too.  Post them with the hash tag and/ or email them to AlumnaeDept@deltagamma.org. 

In addition to “Doing Good,” you can also show your support and Delta Gamma pride by purchasing official “Do Good” Week merchandise and apparel from our official “Do Good” Week vendor, Explosion Sportswear.  Just follow the link to the view and purchase the available items by August 15th https://squareup.com/market/explosion-sportswear-2 (note: you may need to copy and paste the link directly into your preferred browser). 

“Do Good” Week is a chance for Delta Gammas to come together to be kind, give back and help others. The idea is to create a wave of hope across North America, or even the world.
Thanks for joining us and “Doing Good.”